‘Palms sweat … heart racing … pounding in the chest, feeling the anxiety and discomfort inside, negative thoughts going round in your head – ‘Help, I don’t like this – How do I get out of it’ –
Filled with doubt … feeling totally uncomfortable and uneasy in this situation – and all you want is to just shrink into yourself or disappear – or be anywhere else apart from in this situation’
That’s how one of my clients described how their confidence affected them (thank you for allowing me to use it)
For other confidence coaching clients I see, lack of confidence actually keeps them away from situations they feel uncomfortable and unconfident in – meaning that they feel trapped … They want to do something … But all they can hear in their heads are things like ‘You’re not good enough’ or ‘You’ll look stupid’ or ‘You can’t do that … something will go wrong – you’ll embarrass yourself’
Because of their lack of confidence sadly many people are living life small …
Are you staying away from situations where you don’t feel confident and avoiding all the situations where you feel the most discomfort?
A lack of confidence in a particular situation – or maybe in many aspects of a person’s life is very limiting –
For someone who experiences a lack of confidence what they want can seem so distant and unachievable
Where Is Lack Of Confidence Affecting Your Life?
Is a feeling of lack of confidence affecting you? How does it affect you?
What areas of your life is it spoiling for you? Maybe you don’t go for that promotion at work, or it affects your social life – or your relationships with people?
If you feel you lack self-confidence, do you always feel like you are missing out on things?
Maybe you feel so uncomfortable because of your lack of confidence that you shrink back and avoid all kinds of situations completely?
When we don’t feel in control because of lack of confidence, it leads us to feel even less in control … and sometimes – Just lack of confidence in one area of your life can silently creep into many other areas of your life … so in case you are wondering just how this feeling did creep up on you – It’s easily done – and that means it’s easily undone too – When you have the right strategies
Have you ever noticed how powerful and attractive confidence can be?
Many studies have shown that people who are confident appear more attractive, more intelligent – and more successful – so far as to say, studies show that confidence attracts people more than looks!
So where is confidence?
Surely based on those studies, confidence is in the eye of the beholder – and what’s going on in your head perhaps isn’t lack of confidence … maybe it’s simply feelings of doubt and uncertainty?
How Do You Get Confidence?
If you think about this – You weren’t born lacking in confidence were you? So something must have happened to you, something that you thought – or felt – or experienced must have put your lack of confidence there … and it just built up to how you feel now – So that means that you can undo it – You can become confident and get those feelings of certainty and self-assurance – and with me by your side – you don’t have to do it alone!
Confidence is going to play a key part in you getting what you want – so it’s not just about having self-confidence, it’s about being able to carry that confidence with you to all aspects of your life
How Will Confidence Coaching Help You Get What You Want?
Confidence Is a feeling – It’s a feeling of certainty and assurance inside you that everything is going to be okay, where there is no inner critic screaming in your head what could or might go wrong and the doubts are quiet – instead of being so loud, you can’t hear anything else
And Here’s The Good News –
If you want to become more confident – You don’t have to do this on your own!
Confidence is going to play a key part in you getting what you want – so it’s not just about having self-confidence, it’s about being able to carry that confidence with you to all aspects of your life
And whilst that thought might terrify you at this point – Don’t worry
Step by step …
Confidence coaching will help you grow in confidence – that’s because confidence is a process, it’s not something that instantly happens … and as you progress, you’ll feel those horrible feelings fade out as your confidence grows and expands to all areas of your life
Is That What You Want?
Once you have found that confidence in yourself, you’ll be amazed what you can accomplish – Just imagine what you could do if you did feel confident?
Why not make a start with the first things you’d like to be able to do?
